Makes some sense..
I didn't write the following, so whoever did, kudos to you, but it's something which I'd have loved to write. I mostly agree with whatever you've talked about. I will add a few lines on my own though to sum it up. Add and sum.. what am I talking these days! Sigh! So here goes... ( if you wanna sue me, it ain't gonna work, so just read the blog and get outa here ).
Now is the time when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. Sounds like you? Bad, some of us know where we wanna be 2 years down the line, some of us even know where we wanna be 5 years down the line. But this one is a toughie, so I can give you the benefit of the doubt if you're confused.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you, and if you look at the other side of the coin, some of them just plain suck.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. This depends again, on how ambitious, smart, dedicated and determined you are.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. This is the time, when you'd figure out the "right" from the "wrong". This is the time when you'd really get to know someone well, and you are mature enough to understand how this "someone" operates, but you still don't know what to do about this someone! If you tend to understand, you've just finished your first level, which means that you can go ahead and explore life. In case you didn't get it:
1) First level pass : Trust earned, trust given.
2) First level pass : When you share a relationship which is at a higher level than any of the other relationships you share with other people. For eg: you talk about things which you generally wouldn't talk about, you feel differently towards this "someone" than you'd feel to anyone else.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
How many of us would love to be contenders and how many of us, winners? Contenders - the race will never be over. Winners - you've just overtaken your worthiest opponent - FEAR.
Makes sense? You think you can relate to all this? Great. You are one amongst the youth. This isn't called the "Quarter Life Crisis" as a lot of us people generally liken it to be.
This is called - "The Growth of YOU".
-V
Now is the time when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. Sounds like you? Bad, some of us know where we wanna be 2 years down the line, some of us even know where we wanna be 5 years down the line. But this one is a toughie, so I can give you the benefit of the doubt if you're confused.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you, and if you look at the other side of the coin, some of them just plain suck.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. This depends again, on how ambitious, smart, dedicated and determined you are.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. This is the time, when you'd figure out the "right" from the "wrong". This is the time when you'd really get to know someone well, and you are mature enough to understand how this "someone" operates, but you still don't know what to do about this someone! If you tend to understand, you've just finished your first level, which means that you can go ahead and explore life. In case you didn't get it:
1) First level pass : Trust earned, trust given.
2) First level pass : When you share a relationship which is at a higher level than any of the other relationships you share with other people. For eg: you talk about things which you generally wouldn't talk about, you feel differently towards this "someone" than you'd feel to anyone else.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
How many of us would love to be contenders and how many of us, winners? Contenders - the race will never be over. Winners - you've just overtaken your worthiest opponent - FEAR.
Makes sense? You think you can relate to all this? Great. You are one amongst the youth. This isn't called the "Quarter Life Crisis" as a lot of us people generally liken it to be.
This is called - "The Growth of YOU".
-V
posted by V at 10:01 AM
4 Comments:
seemto b puttin on ur thinkin cap veeery often lately..eh
Yeah, I can put on a lot of caps in "REAL TIME" as well.. DIG? :P And it would be useful if I really KNOW who you are.
It's a forward... it's a forward... but where oh where have i seen it?
One of those numerous office emails.
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